Old Guys Still ROCK

Blair Armstrong (00:35)
All right, right, all right. Good morning, good afternoon, good evening, wherever you may be. This is your first time here. You have just found old guys still rock. And again, as if this is your first time here, this is the best freaking podcast you've ever heard in your life. We're super excited that you're here. But when you're done watching this, go back and check out the other 121 other episodes that we have and then share them.

with your friends, family, and all the people that you know, like, and trust. But also hit that subscribe button, hit that notification bell so when we get new podcasts out, you can go ahead and be notified when you get this. again, we're old guys still rock. We come out some great topics. We're kind of an everyday life. What's going on, wins, losses. As I said, it'll be explained in the other 120.

other hundred and twenty one episodes that we have on here. So if you don't know now, you know, and then on your right, I don't actually know if I introduce myself. I'm Blair Armstrong of Team Armstrong, Coldwell Baker. got so in your doctor. See, that's his grassroots. But I'm a couple of Baker. I'm located in beautiful Coachella Valley, better known as Palm Desert, California. And then on my left, possibly your right is my good friend for almost 30 years and.

Brent Wright (01:38)
you

Blair Armstrong (01:55)
The other host of this show, Brent Wright of Brent Wright, Incorporated, he's located, which is actually a great time of year to be there in beautiful, beautiful Eugene, Oregon. He's got about 30 days of good weather left and then Halloween's gonna hit and it's gonna rain sideways and be cloudy until April.

Brent Wright (02:07)
You

Yeah, that's how it works.

Blair Armstrong (02:13)
Pretty much, man. I I miss it. grew up there, so I know. So how are

you doing, dude? You had a big, big week last week. We did a podcast. Two weeks, yeah. I mean, it was back to back that you were actually in a hotel room. ⁓ One weekend, Vegas. Came home for a couple of days, picked up your wife, got back on a plane, went out to Florida to support her and her business, which is Wright Wellness Center.

Brent Wright (02:21)
Two weeks.

Mm-hmm.

Blair Armstrong (02:40)
Do know what your house looks like? Does it feel good to be back in your bed? How is the journey?

Brent Wright (02:45)
The bed, yes. The house, no, because it's in always a constant state of flux of remodel. And so for me, it's just kind of an added stress, quite frankly, of all the projects. You know, I'm in the middle of doing some roofing adjustments and changes before we can put the new roof on. I am replacing windows. We have 49 windows in our house.

and I've got about half of them done and I still have six of them sitting here that I need to change out. Remodeling the guest house and we have guests coming soon. I'm remodeling a rental right now that got trashed by some tenants. Yeah, he's done was horrible, right?

Blair Armstrong (03:21)
That was trashed. I saw that.

That was bad, dude. That's probably the worst I've ever seen.

Brent Wright (03:27)
While we were gone, was getting ready to start raining and I had 100 tons of hay that needed to be covered. Thankfully, Brad Owen and my son and my father-in-law got that covered and saved a whole bunch of money. 100 tons of hay. I still have 18 ton that is sitting out uncovered at the place that I buy it from. And so that's going to be

That's going to be interesting to see how bad that gets before I can pick it up this weekend. ⁓ Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And starts to rot and all of that. Right. And so, yep. We have our new light bed coming for the wellness center. I paid for it last week and they're, they're going to be driving it out here from Tennessee. They're leaving on some Sunday or Monday, I believe, and they're dropping it, getting it all set up.

Blair Armstrong (03:53)
Does it get moldy? Is that why, what happens to it? Okay, Wow, crazy, right?

Brent Wright (04:17)
So I have a whole bunch of other prep work that has to be done. We're removing and moving a whole bunch of stuff in the wellness center, painting, cleaning, all that stuff, getting ready for that. So we're adding, we added a bunch of lights as well. We picked up some lights at the conference. So we're getting that all reorganized. I picked up this really cool thing that I wanna talk about at some point and I wanna tell you about first, but it's called Brain Tap.

Blair Armstrong (04:41)
Okay.

Brent Wright (04:44)
And it's kind of like a bunch of different things kind of combined in one, but it was a game changer for me. And I can explain to you kind of off mic here. And then we can get organized and bring it on the mic, but tremendous benefits. I've already seen the benefits of it and I've only done it four times. It's a game changer. And I'm going to be including it in my coaching opportunities. So.

Blair Armstrong (05:03)
I can't wait to hear about that. That's awesome.

Brent Wright (05:10)
people that truly want to break free of the loops that they're stuck in and the things that are holding them back and maybe they don't know what's holding them back or they do know what's holding them back. This is going to be a game changer for that. just, really excited for that. So I could go into a whole brain dump of the things that happened in the last two weeks, but yeah, it's good to be home. Good to get back on track. Good to get back on schedule and

Can't wait to see what the future holds.

Blair Armstrong (05:38)
So for you

guys, the first time here, as I said, this is your first time just kind of scrolling through this and just kind of heard everything what's going on in his life. I'm the world of residential real estate, but that's not the point of what I talk about. I just want you to hear what he just said and everything that's been on and off the plane. His trip to Vegas was a completely different business. He's got multiple stuff on there. Obviously, I have a lot of stuff going on. So you're like, why are you guys doing a podcast? You sound like you have a lot of stuff going on.

First of all, Brent is not ever saying, woe is me on this. He thrives on this. Actually, it's like his energy drink. So if you had a Red Bull or whatever and it gets you jacked up, what he just talked about just sent him on level 10. It's like it gets him jacked up. And that's why we do this podcast is because we're sharing life with you, our life experiences. There's times we're going to get on here that we got our asses kicked and we're going to let you know about that. And it's more of a relation.

Because right now is what we feel that you're kind of being forced to watch, especially with social media and legacy media. It's just all this him against her and her against him and him and against him. It's this constant state of flux of bad things that are happening. And we're not concentrated on real life stuff. when you come find old guys still rock, we're going to talk about real life stuff. We're going to talk about wins. We're going to talk about losses. We're going to talk about

cool stuff that we have, God has blessed us with wisdom and getting us apart there. So super, super excited that you're here. We got some great topics today. We got some, we have a, I was telling Brent off camera here, we have a returning guest coming up in about a month. We'll reveal that here in a couple of weeks that she came on this, on this podcast and we inspired her so much. She wrote a book. That part's not true.

She did write a book, but we didn't inspire her to do that. She was in the middle of it. So, but anyway, that book got published, super excited for her. That's a massive accomplishment, right? It's all me. And then we have a good friend who is a substance psychologist, the people that have a massive heart addiction and rehab doesn't work. You get this person. So,

Brent Wright (07:23)
She was in the middle of it when we had her on. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

for Blair.

You

Blair Armstrong (07:44)
She'll be coming on here most likely next week, just going through the process of getting her set up. So we've got some cool stuff. And again, we have a lot of other great guests, the Ken McCumbers, the Joe Daniels, Ken Johnsons, and the list goes on, man. And so if you're looking, as Brent said, I mean, that's one thing that Brent really doesn't talk a lot about, but he's really good at kind of the business coach or personal coach. That's really where we can help you. If you're in a rut,

want to help you. If you're having massive success, we want you to call us, let us know, us, whatever, so we can get that out to other people and share this because enough of negativity what's going on in the world, it's time that we come together, even though we may not see eye to eye in a lot of stuff, we do have common threads to help each other grow. That's what you're going to get with Old Guys Still Rock. So, and that was a paid ad by Brent and Blair. You pay for this.

Brent Wright (08:34)
So

it's kind of interesting, you know, that we're slowly growing and I'm grateful and appreciative for everybody. And we're right on track, quite frankly. I looked at podcasts that were started a year ago, two years ago, three years ago, five years ago. And there are very few that exponentially blow up, right? Most of them.

Blair Armstrong (08:42)
Yeah.

Brent Wright (08:58)
kind of sit in this little growth pattern that we're in and I'm grateful for that. But you know, I was thinking that the impasse on our growth isn't because our stuff's not relatable, our topics, our discussions, all of those things. It's that we're not a feel-good movement.

Blair Armstrong (09:18)
Yeah, true, right?

Brent Wright (09:19)
Right? Cause everybody wants to feel good. That's the problem. That's the, that's your problem. Everybody wants to feel great and be comfortable. Right? And so we're not your feel good movement. We're the slap you upside the head, show you what's up. And, and we're going to slap you upside the head a little bit less than we get slapped upside the head. Right? And so we're really just talking about real life, real things and

Blair Armstrong (09:22)
Yeah.

That's for sure.

Brent Wright (09:45)
Real problems, real solutions, they may not be the solution for you, but it's what we did to solve the problem. This has been a huge game changer in relationship building with our wives, with our employees, with our friends, with our guests. Kate and Edna are ready to be back on, buddy. I spent an egregious amount of time with them, literally laughing my ass off the whole time.

Blair Armstrong (10:05)
Good.

Yeah.

Brent Wright (10:11)
I don't think I've ever laughed that hard and so long. It was amazing, amazing time. They're ready to come back on. They're ready to share some cool new things. They've had some heartbreaks. They've had some challenges. They've had family die. They've had friends die. Kate got her car broken into. Her car got broken down several times.

lost her keys. She's got all these stories and she wants to go on and share them. But I will tell you guys, stop looking for the feel good. The feel good has a very limited reward. It's got a dopamine hit that pays out with a crash. We're steady. 122 episodes in. Talking about the things, doing the things, sharing the things.

Blair Armstrong (10:33)
Mm-hmm.

Brent Wright (10:56)
We're not sharing this to do anything other than to share with you our struggles, our successes, our weaknesses, and our failures.

Blair Armstrong (11:04)
Yeah, and I think that's a big thing, what you just said, it's such a great over play what we do is that, you know, our wives that come to us is like, sometimes you guys sound like curmudgeon's, but you know what, you hit that right. You get a lot of these things, these podcasts and rainbow sunglasses, but there's no solutions to how they got there, right? We're saying we're in the trenches and a lot of people are in the trenches. We're not the only ones that are in the trenches, you know, slinging mud and trying to get the mud out and dusting off and stuff like that.

Well, we're sitting there talking about real life stuff and there's no rose colored glasses sometimes, but we are actually giving you a golden nugget, a anecdote, a easy button at times to hit when it's sitting right in front of you, but you just can't see it. And so those are the things that I think, Brent, in some different words of what Brent just said, is that what we bring to the table, which is, it is awesome.

It's awesome to watch it. Not many people could say they have 122 episodes, brother. I, I look, it's got three or four, blah, blah, which was really weird. The day a couple of years ago, Christian, my son started a podcast called the coalition something. And I just got done listening to Andy. I'm on a walk and I've come in and so Andy's podcast and it automatically just randomly throws out a new podcast. Usually.

Greg Groschel comes on or Ed Mylatt comes on or somebody comes on, doesn't matter. And all of a sudden this voice comes in my ear and I'm like, why is Christian in my ear? Now this podcast was from three years ago that came up and like, there was such a weird, weird thing, but it was kind of cool to see that, I don't know the meaning behind that story, just whatever. So there was actually,

Brent Wright (12:33)
Hmm

Blair Armstrong (12:49)
Zero meaning behind that. just sharing this experience. It was cool to hear. but realistically, I think where it all started is that he only got three or four episodes on there and still floating around out there. So, anyway, man, let's get into it. Let's strap in. It's some crazy, crazy times right now. I think there's a lot of stuff that is really coming to reality for a lot of us. And my, have some stuff going into my life and once it kind of gets ironed out for in.

Brent Wright (12:58)
Hmm.

Mm-hmm.

Blair Armstrong (13:16)
It could be a lot longer, but there's a story that's building behind. We're kind of in the shit right now. We talked a little bit about it last week. The darkness is trying to take out the lightness from the soldiers. I'm not worried that it's going to conquer us. It's just you have to maneuver through there. But it comes back to what I want to talk about today.

You're really good at this and dissecting it. So I'm going to give you this stuff and then we're going to do what we always do is go back and forth on it. But are your actions.

relaying what your perceptions are showing to other people. you got it better, you said it better than I did, but that's kind of where I'm thinking like, what are you doing in a daily life giving the right perceptions to people that are viewing you? And you better have synopsis.

Brent Wright (13:55)
Let me summarize that a little.

Well, we had a whole nother

episode 70, 80, somewhere right around in there about you being your authentic self. And really that kind of ties in with this is...

People's perception of you, is that the real you?

Right? One of my daily inspiration things that I've subscribed to said, make sure that people are seeing you the way that you see you and stop acting and start being authentic. And I think that there's got to be a better way to say that. Right. And so I wrote down as you were saying that, are your actions building how others perceive you? And then are you being real?

to yourself and to others? Or are you putting on a front every time that you talk to somebody? Is it, are you a different Blair over here and a different Blair over here and a different Blair for this group and a different Blair for that group? Or are you the same Blair and everybody thinks you're an a-hole? Or are you the same Blair and everybody's happy that you're there? Is it?

you know, are you being true?

Blair Armstrong (15:18)
I think that there's, so here's some transparency.

There are times that I use myself as a third person. There are times that Blair gets very, very mentally just done. My business is, yeah, I'm an introvert in career. And a lot of shaking hands, kissing babies. I love talking to people. I love the solution. I love what I do, because every day is freaking different. It's every day. With any business, you can say that.

Brent Wright (15:31)
We talked about this, you're an introvert stuck in an extrovert's career.

Blair Armstrong (15:49)
You know, I have people that are aligned with my beliefs and there's people that are not aligned with my beliefs and there's people that are a little bit difficult more than others. I know that I'm more difficult than others. But the point of it is there is a lot of mental in my world. I probably create it, but it is just what it is. Nothing different from anybody else's profession or life. But what happens is when I get tired, the bad Blair comes out and that part sucks.

That part sucks and it's a reaction.

Brent Wright (16:19)
So that's just a reaction. I'm talking

about being a consistent, authentic person.

Blair Armstrong (16:24)
Consistently, but yeah,

but I going and I reason why I say that that that part sucks is because there's stuff that I I'm trying to work on it and I'm still far away with this and I know I talked about this before but there is a point in time that now I can start feeling it come up and I'm doing a lot I'm doing a lot better trying to divert it I fail at times but I'm starting to you know getting them like okay Don't let something else like this Don't let don't let this affect you

Don't let the, actually it's not affecting me. Don't let it affect other people because my emotions start coming out the wrong way when I get mentally tired and the bad Blair comes out and I never was able to catch that. And I'm starting to catch it better. Fail a lot, but I'm starting to get better at that. So that's why I was going back to is, is, is who you are, what other people perceive. And I want to be more consistent on the perception of the good stuff.

even in down times. And that's where I'm going with it. Now there's also another stife, switching gears on this. I am also witnessing a lot of people that have this

perception of a victim.

but they're actually the problem.

Brent Wright (17:36)
That's deep.

Blair Armstrong (17:37)
that and they create a victim mentality but they created it and then when you call them on it they they flip it and make you the problem.

Brent Wright (17:55)
So we talked about this a couple of weeks ago with the gal, the lesbian, and she didn't have any issues, but her mom did.

Blair Armstrong (18:04)
Right?

And so, and that's where I said is, okay, your perception is that you're, it's more of a narcissistic behavior and there's a lot of them out there. A lot of people are be able to relate with this. So your narcissistic behavior, your perception is you can kind of be, you'd be a good person, you feel like you're doing some different things. But when something happens, usually that narcissistic person created it, but they become the victim.

and then they try to turn it around and make it, it's your fault.

And that is a keyboard word. And there's a lot of that. And I think that's really where it came from. There's a lot of that that is out there right now that these people can pick up these bots. We've talked about this a lot before, by the way, if you don't know what a bot is, look up a bot. 98 % of your media is run by bots. So all this stuff that you see, even though that it may, you may relate with, yeah, that's exactly what I'm talking about. It's.

Brent Wright (18:35)
And then if they're on social, then they keyboard warrior you to death, right?

Blair Armstrong (19:03)
probably fictitious in some form or another.

Brent Wright (19:05)
Have you seen that picture

of the guy sitting in China in a room with 500 phones and he's controlling them from a keyboard and he's logged in on 500 different bot accounts on all theaters of social, theaters being X, Instagram, True Social, Facebook, all of the things, threads now, right? And he's logged into all of them on each phone.

Blair Armstrong (19:09)
Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

Yeah.

Brent Wright (19:33)
and keyboarding and typing up stuff. That's a bot. And they're just randomly stirring the pot. Stir the pot, stir the pot. Create dissension.

Blair Armstrong (19:45)
And sound bites, right? Sound bites are a big thing right now. There's a lot of sound bites that went out and they like or not like Trump. There's a lot of sound bites that came out when he was at the United Nations that were, if you actually played the whole clip, it had more meaning to it. I'm not saying you have to like him or not. No one has to like everybody. I'm okay with that. I'm just saying that could be done with the right and the left. And it has done a lot. what we want, what a...

Brent Wright (19:46)
Mm-hmm.

Mm-hmm.

Blair Armstrong (20:11)
One of our main topics that we've been talking about is creating unity. You've got to stop looking at the macro part of what's going on life. It's an important yes. What is going in your back door? What is going back to what we talked about last week? If you're looking, or a couple of weeks ago, if you're looking at yourself in the mirror, are you being your true person? Which leads into today. Is your actions what you're doing right now?

Brent Wright (20:34)
being that true person.

Blair Armstrong (20:36)
being your true person. How are people perceiving you? If you're being a keyboard warrior and all you're spreading is hate, you may not be that person that is hateful, but your perception, what you're doing is like of others, right? So I know some people that have great hearts, they work hard, they're super smart, but we've got sucked into this stuff that now their perception is like, my God.

Brent Wright (20:51)
Well, perception of you.

you

Blair Armstrong (21:03)
I don't even want to be around you because all you do is negative, negative, negative, negative, negative. And how that affects you, you may think that you are doing some great cause, but you're actually causing yourself harm.

And that's the last thing that I want to see, Brent wants to see, anybody wants to see. When you're looking at yourself in the mirror, if people, if you look at yourself in mirror and you know that someone's talking behind my back, I don't want to hang out with that person anymore because all they want to do is spread hate or stuff that maybe I don't agree with. All of sudden you find yourself on an island. So when I say are your actions feeding your perception, I hope that

you hear this or know a friend that is going through this and share this message with them and like, maybe just take a gut check.

Brent Wright (21:49)
So I have a friend of mine that, and I've talked about him on this, on this before. He, he sends me, he gets really deep into all of this Israel, Pakistan, Qatar, all these things. Every time he sends me an email, he's like, Hey, your buddy Trump did this. Are you aware of it? Like my buddy Trump, like I've never even.

Blair Armstrong (21:50)
to

don't even know him.

Brent Wright (22:16)
I don't even know where that comes from, right? So,

you know, it's, he's, he is dividing and being divisive in our emails and our conversations. And I'm just, I'm looking at the big picture going, government is the problem. The structure of the government has been totally horde out and is in my book.

bit of evil. Right, left, we talk about that. I just want people to be good people. I don't really care about Democrat, Republican, or otherwise. If you're a Democrat and you're making a difference in this world, like we talk about a lot on this podcast, you're a good human being, and you're not trying to create a divisive situation every time we interact, we're gonna be good.

If you're a Republican and you're doing the same thing, we're going to be good. If you don't, if you do the exact opposite of that, it's likely I'm not going to reply to your email. We're not going to have conversations that are meaningful and productive because every time that you layer on one of those things, you are shutting me down.

I've got a lot of cool stuff to say.

I have some really good tools to help you get through a lot of things. We talk about this on the podcast.

But am I really inclined to help you if you're creating a sense of division every time we interact?

Blair Armstrong (23:38)
Stop there right there, or as you just said, because I'm going say this. But Brent, do you really know who I am?

Brent Wright (23:45)
You? Yes.

Blair Armstrong (23:45)
So yeah,

no, but no, but that's person that's going through this, right? Or someone is saying that like, Hey, I don't want to be around you. But Brent, do you really think that, know, why don't you around me? You don't really know who I am, but your perception, but your perception that what's the, that I'm seeing and all the actions that you're doing, I don't want to be around that. I don't know that you're a good person because all you're doing is,

Brent Wright (23:50)
Mm-hmm.

Well then tell me more.

Mm-hmm.

Blair Armstrong (24:12)
throwing gasoline on the fire, or you're creating a scenario that isn't true. And I know it, and you know it, but you're playing this victim card.

and you want this well as me, but you created the problem. How is that gonna help me get better? How is it gonna help Brett get better? How is it gonna make your community get better?

The victim mentality, and again, you said something too right now.

powers to be.

If we want to go political, right or left, both sides, don't care about you at this present time. I'm not going to say that forever. Right now, they don't care. Disruption is what they want to do and they want to create us to fight why other stuff is going behind the scenes. You can call it conspiracy, whatever you want to call it. It's happening. Figure it out. Let's get real. You didn't used to hate your neighbor.

five years ago, six years ago, 10 years ago. So stop with it. I understand the actions. Well, they did this and they did this and they believed this and that. Well, when's the last time you sat down and talked to them? And the person that is doing it.

What are you going to solve doing what you're doing? And if you're watching this, literally, let Bren or I know, what are you gonna solve? Because you're not making our world better, continuing to spread the BS, the 99.99 % of the BS that's going on right now. So your actions right now, everybody, my actions, Brent's actions, everybody, we're not, we're throwing it out there.

Brent Wright (25:27)
Yeah.

Blair Armstrong (25:52)
and we're making a point about it, but we have to look at ourself in the mirror knowing that we have to make adjustments too. So we're not throwing rocks at glass houses. This is a wake up call for us too. But stop with the freaking finger pointing, the gas lighting. We're all, all responsible for this. And until that happens, they are gonna continue running this game and making you just be mad.

The one thing that I've saw in some people, he's super controversial right now. I get where he's going with this, but he's being bold. Ian Smith, Ian Smith fitness. I don't know if you follow him or not. He's a lot. There's some stuff that I agree with. There's stuff that I'm not. The thing that I do appreciate this, he's it's coming straight from him. It's not some repost of a meme and stuff like that. He does repost a meme once in a while, but he also gives why he thinks this part.

Brent Wright (26:30)
I do, I do.

Blair Armstrong (26:48)
I'm okay with that, so let's have a debate with that. But that's just me.

Brent Wright (26:52)
Well, he has been put on the chopping block a lot. Did you see the interaction that he had with the guy who tried to sexually abuse his daughter?

Blair Armstrong (27:02)
I did not see that part.

Brent Wright (27:04)
Go watch that one. That is super, super crazy.

Blair Armstrong (27:05)
Okay.

Brent Wright (27:08)
Kind of, I wouldn't compare that scenario to my situation. Did we talk about my Harbor freight interaction?

Blair Armstrong (27:14)
No.

Brent Wright (27:15)
Ha ha, this is good. First off, I do have to comment on what you just said. So this is my biggest problem with people commenting about politics and we should be doing this, we should be doing that, we should be not going over there, we should not be bombing these people, we should not.

If your opinion mattered.

Wouldn't you be president?

No, I'm serious about that. Like, if your opinion was that cool, why is it that you are an overweight?

unprepared, pick something. I'm not trying to be derogatory towards somebody, but you couldn't fight your way out of a wet paper sack and you think that your political opinion actually makes a damn difference.

Blair Armstrong (28:02)
The worst part is typically not their opinion. It's somebody else's opinion that they're just writing the coattails off.

Brent Wright (28:07)
Well, it

might be, yeah, might be, they could be running the play for the other person, right? And so that's all fine and dandy, but no different than my friend saying you're your buddy Trump, right? Like you're 60 something years old and, um, you know, you might've done some cool stuff in your life, but you're not president. Do you think that your energy could be spent better?

Blair Armstrong (28:10)
Right.

Brent Wright (28:37)
on volunteering. You think your energy could be spent better on mentoring, coaching, showing.

You know, the same friend is constantly talking about one day. One day I'm going to get fit. One day I'm going to take that jujitsu class so I can defend my family. One day I'm going to do these things. Well, my perception of him is that probably one day isn't going to come.

By the way, since we are old guys that still rock, ⁓ my song for the day, by the way, this is the birthday edition. I'm turned 53 today.

Blair Armstrong (29:07)
you

Right buddy? I keep f- How is it-

Brent Wright (29:16)
And so Bob Seeger

against the wind, cause I'm still running against the wind. I'm fighting the good fight every single day. I may fail, but I get back up and I run against the wind. Listen to those lyrics of that song.

Blair Armstrong (29:32)
My favorite artist, man, that guy's, he is legit. His storytelling is phenomenal because you could always put yourself, you can close your eyes and just be in that moment, right? You be in that moment.

Brent Wright (29:48)
Yeah. And maybe that's the title to our podcast is, no, is what's your story telling others?

Blair Armstrong (29:52)
against the wind.

Yeah.

Brent Wright (29:58)
Right? Because it's, we're trying to formulate the perception, like, but what's your story telling others? What's your narrative telling others?

Blair Armstrong (30:07)
Yeah, I really like that because we're in the stories is never ending ever, ever ending. and another thing that you said earlier, just a couple of minutes ago, you're talking about, you know, are you in shape and all this stuff? no matter what your faith is, Muslim, whatever Jewish, whatever, there is a common thread in that, that this thing that you live in, which we call a body.

Brent Wright (30:12)
Yeah.

Blair Armstrong (30:31)
is your temple.

from your mind down to your feet.

How are you treating that? Are you feeding, are you giving your temple the very best wisdom, the very best nutrition, the very best life that you could possibly do? Are you taking shortcuts?

because you don't believe in that temple very much.

Brent Wright (30:55)
Well, maybe it's about self-belief, just like you said. Maybe it's about self-reflection. Maybe it's about self-integrity, self-honor.

You know, it's really hard is after doing 75 hard three times and you did live, live hard program. I struggled to relate to people that are going to be there just one dayers. One day, one day. It's a tough road. It, you know, it.

Blair Armstrong (31:09)
Yeah,

or I'm getting

closer, I'm almost gonna do it. I'm almost gonna do it.

Brent Wright (31:23)
It was, yeah, I'll

get back on track. get, yeah. But I just struggle to relate and that's not a judgment. That's just me struggling every single day to be a human that just doesn't call people out. And maybe that's my truth. Maybe that's the truth I need to live on. Maybe I need to change how people perceive me.

Blair Armstrong (31:28)
As you just attempt to see how it feels.

Brent Wright (31:47)
I've been trying to merge the, you we talked about this before several times. My wife says that she married nighttime Brent, not daytime Brent. She said on this last trip to Florida, daytime Brent and nighttime Brent are merging. And I believe that eventually that there won't be any separation.

Blair Armstrong (32:09)
Dude, how awesome is that?

Brent Wright (32:10)
I felt like that was the biggest compliment that I've ever received in a long time.

Blair Armstrong (32:13)
That's massive, And

I've known you for 30 years. it makes me kind of get a little teary-eyed to tell you the truth because I've seen it, but that's just awesome to hear, especially from, especially from the person that God put you with.

Brent Wright (32:17)
Mm-hmm. Yeah.

Yeah, my bookkeeper

said that 15 years ago when we started interacting, she doesn't know who that guy is anymore. She doesn't see that person. That person's dead. And the person 10 years ago and the person five years ago, she told me that. That put a little hitch in my giddy up there yesterday. It almost brought me to tears as well between those two things.

Blair Armstrong (32:51)
⁓

I'm fighting them right now, dude. So, I, you're my dude. And,

Brent Wright (32:54)
Hahaha

Blair Armstrong (32:56)
It's been awesome to watch.

Brent Wright (32:58)
Thank you. Thank you.

Blair Armstrong (33:01)
Yeah, and

that's God calling. Anyway, but no, man, think there's, you know, I think that's just awesome to hear. And maybe that's a missing, you know, I hear that. I think a lot of us have gotten away from that so much, even in just in everyday relationships. We don't, we don't recognize the transformation as much as we should, because it's so warp speed right now. Everything is so fast.

Brent Wright (33:04)
Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha!

Blair Armstrong (33:28)
I feel like you and I just got in this podcast yesterday and I woke up this morning like, God, we're doing it a day early. my God. And then, know, and it's like, it was just Thursday and how did it become Wednesday? But I think that's a powerful thing. So, and I know that our spouses say it more than we hear it, but sometimes it hits different, right? And, so

Monumental for April doing that. it's not that she needed to do it, but it's awesome that she recognized it to the point that she did do it. And I hope that part of what I just said makes sense. Because maybe it's a wake up call. Maybe this is the episode as a wake up call is that we do, even though that we're far, far away from getting to where we need to be.

in our actions, our thoughts, know, job not done. We always talk about that. Job not finished. But once in a while recognize, hey, still got a long ways to go, but man, your transformation over the last couple of years has been kick ass. Keep going, dude. I'm seeing it. I know it. I know you're going to fail, but I'm seeing it.

And that little bit will kind of get you to the next level, right? It'll take you from level five to level 5.12 or something like that, whatever.

That's awesome. If you guys, if this is the only part of the episode that you're watching, that part was kick ass just because it can really change a lot of things in a lot of people's lives. It start recognize the transformation, then start recognizing like, well, you didn't do this, this and this, but you did do this, this and this. It's either the, it's either recognizing the good or it's recognizing the bad, but maybe more so recognize the transformation.

And if the transformation is not going the right way, which you said is, and in which Andy has said a bunch of times is, the truth is, it might hurt your feelings. But if you're not telling the people that you care about the truth, then it's on you that they didn't succeed.

Brent Wright (35:30)
Mm-hmm.

Yeah. And that's truly why we built this is to share our, there's an age old saying, and I say it to Kate often, is your mess is your message. And that's why we're here. We're not for the likes and the feel good moments and the prop you up and make you feel like everything's going to be all right in the world when it freaking isn't unless you do a damn, unless you make a change, unless you put forth the effort.

So speaking of which, I'm gonna get back to my Harbor Freight, okay? So this is super cool. So gotta shake it off.

had to cover the hay. So before I left, I went to Harbor Freight to buy a bunch of tarps. We go through tarps on the ranch, truckload of tarps a year at least. They don't last long. We snag them with the excavator, them, all that stuff, skid steer. So I go get this bundle of tarps and I'm sitting in the line at Harbor Freight and this guy gets on the microphone and he's talking to another guy. He's like the same guy from yesterday. He's on aisle one.

He's grabbing battery packs. Can you go try to see if you can dissuade him? I didn't know this, but Harbor Freight's policy is they can't do anything about somebody shoplifting. They have to just let them walk out. And they can't get in the middle of them. They can't stop them. They can't do anything. They can talk to them, but they can't do anything physical. They can't grab them. They can't take this stuff out of their hands. And he says, so there's me and about 10 or 12 guys, and most of them are physically...

exponentially larger than me in all shapes and sizes, overweight, not overweight, tall, thin, you know, whatever. all guys who should be looking out for danger for themselves and for others, in my opinion, guys that should be able to make a difference if they so choose to. And the guy at the register says,

that guy is stealing, he's raising your prices. Every time somebody steals from our store, your prices go up. Is somebody gonna do something about it? I looked back, because I'm done, they're putting all my stuff into my cart. And I look back and everybody turns around and gets on their phone. I run out, I get in front of the guy, he's on one of those electric bikes, the e-bikes, right?

and he's like a foot taller than me and burly. And he's got this stuff in his hands and he puts it in his backpack and he slings it. I tried and grab his backpack. He pulls away from me and I said, stop, give that stuff back.

and he takes off on his eBay. I look back to go back in to get my credit card and grab my tarps and all the things, because my credit card stuck in the dang machine at the counter. And I look back and all these guys just turn around and shame.

All right guys, 12 or 14 guys standing there all in line.

and not one of them would look me in the eyes. And not one of them went out to help not only stop the guy, but to back me up.

Of course the guys on this E-bike, I don't know if you've seen those, but those are fast. Like that guy was gone. Yeah, that guy was gone. But I think we've reached a, yeah, this one was jamming, which is, know, this guy's stealing a hundred dollars worth of batteries. He's obviously homeless, maybe a mentally deranged person. You know, I'm out there putting my life on the line. I'm ready to pull a weapon and he just takes off.

Blair Armstrong (38:43)
I have one. I have one dude. It's awesome. Yeah. Some of them are faster than the others.

Brent Wright (39:07)
I don't even know if those people that were standing in line, if it affected them in any way other than the initial shame and then they went and got in their car or truck and laughed and didn't ever think about it. But I'd be willing to bet you at least one or two of those guys went home and they were sitting on their couch feeling like, damn it, I should have done something. I should be a better human being.

Blair Armstrong (39:29)
That's where it is is your actions helping your persona. You should have done something You should have even if one guy started the initiatives you should have followed him and at least try to help him out Standing there is you're not Because I wonder I see that a lot now is to say always like I'm gonna hold up my camera Look at the guy stealing it. I don't well You know what? The amount of time that it took you to turn your camera to get your camera on is to hit the video You could have detained the guy those employees are under unfortunately with their

Insurance policies and their policies just in every single store doesn't matter let the you know If you get if the employee gets hurt it it's on the employer to pay for that So they just said just let it go It's a lot less expensive to have than it but it's up to us as society to set the standard so if you are that guy or you are that girl and you're filming and You're not doing anything about it or at least trying to stop it that is on you and it is your actions And that's how we are going to perceive you

that you're just another person that talks mad-ish but doesn't do anything. This is the same guys that didn't do anything to help him out, that Brett could have actually put his life in the middle of it. He didn't know if the guy had a knife, he didn't know if the guy had a taser, all these different scenarios. Neither, right? But the point of it is, you set this standard, you set the example, your actions gave your perception at that given time.

Brent Wright (40:41)
But he didn't know if I did either.

Blair Armstrong (40:55)
This is the guide that we need in society or the girl that would do the same thing that gives us in society. And that's what we're talking about today. So when you're evaluating, and I'm doing the same thing right now, when you're evaluating, what am I doing today? we can just, just today, what am I doing today that is gonna take my actions, that's gonna lead to build a perception that I am contributing the right way to society. And I'm not sitting back waiting for someone else to come and save me.

Brent Wright (41:08)
Am I the one?

I was the least physically intimidating out of all the people standing there, which is hilarious. Cause that guy's probably like, who the hell is this guy? Like, you know, like what's he gonna do to me?

Blair Armstrong (41:24)
Anyway.

Hahaha

Right.

Crazy white man.

Brent Wright (41:38)
I told you a couple episodes ago, I got a new face ball bat. Not a baseball bat, a face ball bat. ⁓ yeah, yeah. I'm your 811 friend. Look that up guys, figure that out.

Blair Armstrong (41:41)
Know I know I know your code dude Yeah Yep

You

know, the funny thing is that we have, the family has a friend and he's a cleaner.

When you call the 811 friend, you call this guy next. So when you watch John Wick and he gives him a couple of things, he's that guy. And the stories that he has.

Brent Wright (42:01)
You need to call the cleaner next.

Mm-hmm.

or

the other Quentin Tarantino with John Travolta.

Blair Armstrong (42:14)
Yeah. So the stories that this guy has is phenomenal, but he's that guy and nicest guy in the world.

Brent Wright (42:23)
Well, it's all got

to be done, right? So many, many years ago, I worked for an insurance company and I joined the investigative team and part of my duties were to go out and investigate suicides. And there are companies you've never heard of that just show up and they clean it and they take care of it. And those are, you know, unfortunately the sad truth of

some of the things that we deal with in life. I also got another perception story for you. So you've heard me say it a million times since we've known each other. Everybody asks, how are you doing today? And I'll say another day in paradise.

Some people are like, is it, is it really? Well, it is for me. I'm not sure about you. I build my paradise every single day.

every single day. I'm not saying every day is great, but I am moving forward on building a life I don't have to escape from. Now I'm not judging. Everybody likes their things. You'll never find me sitting on a couch on a Saturday or a Sunday watching football, watching TV, watching anything, unless I am sick. I am your average guy that goes from not being sick to I'm done.

And so, but you'll never find me just checking out. You'll never find me needing all the things that a lot of people need. And so truly every day I am executing at the highest level that my body, my brain and my brawn can take care of for me and my family. I truly am building my paradise every day. I've heard from others.

When I say that, why you gotta be so negative?

Isn't that a response?

Blair Armstrong (44:16)
How is, how is,

yes, what I was thinking, dude, all I'm trying to do is be better. And just because that's because I don't sit around and stuff like that. And, I call people out on it. It's just, it's my standard. And why are you going to be mad at my standard? Just because you're, listen, your standard. Yeah. Right. Your standard is a lot different from my standard. Okay. When the ducks come on TV, you know, whatever it is, that's what we want to do. Now, last week it was a.

Brent Wright (44:28)
Right. But you say that's another day in paradise.

Mm-hmm.

Blair Armstrong (44:43)
Big game for us for that week, client called, the house that we're buying, I want to go take measurements in. And I'm like, you've got to be kidding me. In my mind, I'm like, you've got to be kidding me. I'm leaving this. Right. And so old Blair, maybe not so long ago, Blair, would have said, yeah, I'll make it up some stupid excuse. But then,

Brent Wright (44:55)
Because they're me. And they don't know.

Blair Armstrong (45:07)
this trying to become a better Blair, which we were becoming said, you know what is 30 minutes to an hour of your life gonna change the direction of this game, which you don't know how the ends.

Or is it going to make you a better person because you concentrated what was unimportant for somebody else. And that measurement was important to somebody else. The game was going to end the way it was going to end. And realistically, it's being recorded. So I could go back and watch it. But I may have missed amazing play. Maybe. Is that going to change my life? No. But it took me a long time to get to that point. There's a lot of

Brent Wright (45:48)
You mean you yelling

at the TV isn't gonna change the game?

Blair Armstrong (45:50)
yelling,

pacing, M and F in it, know, it's cheering. It's just, but that's what I just said is just, you know, Brent is in a constant state of flux. His standard changes every day, but it's that it's just today. It's not for it's not tomorrow and it's not yesterday. There's adjustments and everyone needs to be adjustments. You've got one shot. Your body's a temple. Your actions may not be the best today.

Brent Wright (45:54)
Yeah.

Blair Armstrong (46:20)
It doesn't mean you can't change them tomorrow, but don't worry about tomorrow. Just do today. Just do today. That's it. It's that simple. You don't know if you've got 15 seconds left in the quarter or another 15 over times. Just do today. And you do it. You can try to copy Brett, you're not going to be like him. You can try to copy Andy Fercella, you're not going to be like him. The Ed My Let's, the...

the list goes on and on. But those guys that I just mentioned, it's never ending. And it doesn't care if you can keep up with it. They don't care if you can keep up with it or not. They're just setting it a standard. They're just setting an example. their actions are portraying how you perceive them. And if that motivates you, then lock into them and figure out how they do it. Ask them to sit at your table.

at their table. They may not say you're ready yet. If you do this, this and this, then we'll invite you to our table. And that's okay too. That's a whole nother episode. Yeah, but you're there to help, right? Hey, I'm here to help you. I'm here to help you, but we have to get here, here and here and here. I'm giving you amazing amounts of golden nuggets to help your life be easier and better and not only help your life become better, but to help the others become better. But if you're not going to put in the work,

Brent Wright (47:23)
I'm just building my own.

Yeah, yeah, 100%.

Blair Armstrong (47:44)
I can't change you unless you're gonna give actions. Right, so.

Brent Wright (47:48)
Yeah, but my goal

isn't to build a table so big with others. My goal is to help them build their own table.

Blair Armstrong (47:55)
Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Brent Wright (47:58)
Man, what a good episode. I'm just, I'm on fire.

Blair Armstrong (47:59)
It was a good one, dude. It's going to get better,

dude. We got some good people coming out here. guys strap in, man. know, Brett said something to the beginning of this stuff like this. It's like, we've been a slow growth. We understand that. We may not be as big as other podcasts, but I will go pound for pound with everything else that's out there. We didn't buy our followers. We don't have any advertising and we don't have any sponsors. This is all us,

Brent Wright (48:04)
Yeah.

Blair Armstrong (48:27)
So I will, I am very confident that we'll go pound for pound with anything that's out there, that everything that you've seen, that's been consistent. Now again, the Ed Mylads, the Tony Robinson, I understand these different things. Those guys have been around for a little while. We're two and a half years into this. And I think that we're kicking ass. And if we don't think that we're kicking ass, tell us how we're not. Then we'll get better. Well, we're coming for you. So strap in, we're gonna make you better. We're gonna make ourselves better.

but it's your job to take this shit and go out and spread it and stop living in a silo. You're a great person, we know that. We know there's massive goodness in you. It's time to share that goodness and stop beating other people up because they don't maybe agree with you all the time. Be a Charlie, you know what? Here, and I know I really don't care. Be a freaking Charlie Kirk. Be a Charlie Kirk.

Brent Wright (49:14)
Yeah.

Speak your truth.

Blair Armstrong (49:25)
Debate, listen.

and then you know guys that still rock.

Brent Wright (49:28)
Go listen to some Bob Seeger, damn it.

Blair Armstrong (49:30)
Yeah, gets the

win, man. All right, dude. Any final words for you?

Brent Wright (49:33)
Yeah,

as always go make a damn difference. We're trying to. We challenge you. Life is a competition. There are no points for second place people. But let's compete. Let's see who can make a bigger difference. I'd love to see that war. That'd be fun.

Blair Armstrong (49:50)
Amen. We love you guys. Until next week, stay safe, but most of all, God bless. Take care.