Old Guys Still ROCK

Blair Armstrong (00:55)
All right, right, all right. Good morning, good afternoon, good evening, wherever you may be. This is your first time here. You have found old guys still rock, better known as OGSR. I am Blair Armstrong of Team Armstrong Coldwell Banker. I am a global luxury specialist in the world of residential real estate inside the world of the Coachella Valley. But I do have tentacles that reach all across the world.

And then on my left, possibly your right, is a good friend and co-host. hate saying that word. I've to come up with a different word for that. host, but co-founder, founder of this show, Brent, right? A Brent, right? Incorporated. him and I have been friends tied at the hip, do all that stuff, gone through battles together, ups and downs, all that stuff for almost 30 years now, but

Brent Wright (01:31)
Bye!

Blair Armstrong (01:45)
Brett Wright of Brett Wright Incorporated. He's located in beautiful Eugene, Oregon. A good man with many different hats from payroll companies to wellness centers to detail shops to body shops. Just started bustedtees.com with a conglomerate of other guys. He's just, I don't know what you want to call that. There's a venture to that. We'll get into that in a little bit. But anyway, so.

But again, as this guy just didn't fall into this over the course of a couple of years, it's been, it's been over 30 years that he's been working, taking on different businesses. when his bandwidth expands, takes on another stuff into it just keeps on spanning and really giving a great ripple effect to a lot of people. So without long drawn out info or introduction, how are you doing my dude? What is going on in Eugene, Oregon?

I know you're really excited about this because you're a big sports fan, football is about to start out there. That's a joke.

Brent Wright (02:45)
I don't even know what that means. I go back to what they say. So a couple things. One, it's in the Bible. Two, Marcus Aurelius talked about it. Epiticus talked about it. I probably butchered his name. The great Stoics I'll talk about is distract them with the games and they will be compliant.

Blair Armstrong (02:47)
I don't know.

Yeah, that is true. I'm very compliant in about a month.

Brent Wright (03:15)
Yeah. Yup.

Yup. And so I, I, no offense to anybody. I think it's a complete waste of fricking time. It's a waste of my time and energy. Do I like to go to a good live football game? Yeah. Every once in a while, I think it's cool to go and just see, you know, see the energy. Do I like to go to a concert every once in a while? Sure. Guilty as charged. but those people are not my heroes. Those people are not people that I.

give a lot of credit or credibility to. They're no different than you and I. They have a skill and they're getting paid for that skill. Good for them. Happy form, but not anything that I need to really worry about for any length of time in particular. I just don't, it doesn't matter if it's, you know, on one end of the spectrum, if it's sports, if it's concerts, if it's lectures, if it's, you know,

Blair Armstrong (03:53)
Mm-hmm.

Brent Wright (04:11)
all those things. Again, my wife talks about a lot of this with our kids, everything in moderation.

Blair Armstrong (04:12)
Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah. It's funny how that, you know, people have different mindset to this. my wife, her father played for Oregon back in the sixties. so Christine, I met at Oregon years ago. but it's always, you know, we wrap around Oregon football is, it's, it starts talking about, you know, in, in March, what's going to happen next year and season tickets and all this stuff. then

We also have season hockey tickets out here. So I find it, it's not so much the sports. find it, I look at it as a business aspect of how teams work together. What are they doing for motivation? How are these guys, when they're riding that winning wave, whatever that may be, how are they staying cohesive? What is the coach doing? How are they making adjustments when they're getting their booties handed to them?

Those are the things I look at, which is probably a little bit more analytical, but I always look at that. I'm like, okay, how do I apply that? How do I use that in the story? Those are the things I.

Brent Wright (05:13)
So

those things I completely agree with. You'll never get me on that. It's the professional sports. ⁓ I believe those are all actors, ⁓ in my opinion. I believe that that thing is set to distract, disturb, disrupt our lives. So that way, again, one, we are compliant, but two,

Blair Armstrong (05:16)
Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Brent Wright (05:35)
we become passionate about something besides things that are really important. I think that's the distraction. The kids, I'll support the kids all day long. College stuff, I get a little edgy with that. So here's why. I mean, you've probably watched the movie and I can't remember the name of the movie, but it's a movie about a college coach that decides to start paying for his players.

and enticing his players with perks and things like that, and then gets caught by the NCAA and gets in trouble and all those things. That's what I'm talking about. When things start to lose their purity, that's when I become disenchanted with them, right? Kids sports, total good supporter of kids sports. Local AYSO soccer, total good supporter of all.

Blair Armstrong (06:21)
Yeah. Yeah.

Brent Wright (06:30)
love to go watch those folks. And you're right, it does add a layer of education and team play and camaraderie and all those things. And it does apply to business and it does apply to life. That I'm in true support of. But when it becomes jaded, I become disenchanted.

Blair Armstrong (06:30)
Mm-hmm.

Mm-hmm.

Yeah. Yeah.

Yeah. I hear you, man. I hear you. And that's why we're the yin and yang of podcast, Matt. It's just so, you know, I like sports. You don't like sports. I like vacations. Your vacations last for 15 minutes and it's awesome. I have. I. I just got two cases yesterday because I'm getting.

Brent Wright (06:54)
Ha ha ha ha ha.

Yeah. By the way, have you tried the new flavor? So it's screaming freedom, but it tastes different. They changed the formulation.

Blair Armstrong (07:17)
I'm getting someone I know a lot. I'm not going to put our eyes on. Chrissy likes to have, she can't drink coffee anymore. Whatever it is. She likes to have the caffeine. helps her out a lot. So she switched to Coke and I'm like, let's try some, let's try some first form energy drinks. So I went to the store. Thank you. UFC and Anheuser-Busch for partnering with first form, getting that out there a lot easier.

But I or bought her Screamin' Freedom, bought her the orange one and the grape one. She did not like Screamin' Freedom, but she did like the orange and the grape. So I just got two cases in there.

Brent Wright (07:47)
Yeah, yeah.

That's weird that she didn't like

screaming freedom because the grape is very similar. It just tastes like purple screaming freedom.

Blair Armstrong (07:58)
So

I just ordered a case of orange and a case of grape. They just showed up yesterday. I'm very excited. I was going to take a picture of what my fridge looks like this morning because it's all lined up perfectly. know, that typical peas are all lined up. Everything's in sin. Anyway.

Brent Wright (08:10)
No. ⁓

Of

Blair Armstrong (08:18)
So I haven't had the new Screamin' Freedom. I actually haven't had the grape yet, so I'm very excited to have that today, because I'm a little tie-tie, but anyway. We are all over the board today, but it's just fine. And if you guys, this is your first time here. Usually we have a topic we get into, but if this your first time here, you can find us on YouTube, iHeartMusic, Apple Music, Amazon Music.

Brent Wright (08:23)
Mmm.

Yeah.

Blair Armstrong (08:48)
Spotify the list goes on we typically post this on Instagram and Facebook and then we have links on the side of what we give you our website and we have links on the side where you can find our channel so if you haven't done so yet subscribe to one of those whatever your platform may be hit the subscribe button and so when we get these new episodes out you're notified of a new episode but so brother

Brent Wright (09:10)
Speaking

of episodes, what episode are we on?

Blair Armstrong (09:14)
111 111 baby just like the major highway that runs through the Coachella Valley Highway 111 we are in episode 111 today we are really good and we are going to talk about one of our little pet peeves today which some of you I'm sure that who listen to this understand what we're going to talk about today but I know some people

Brent Wright (09:15)
Amen, brother.

Mm-hmm.

Blair Armstrong (09:38)
And I think that you do too. But I know some people that they complain when they're bored. And then all of sudden people reach out to them like, hey, can you do this for me? All of a sudden they're super busy. They're like, I'm so busy. I just don't know what to do. And I'm like, it's your job to be busy.

And so I don't understand it. It drives me crazy. I know you and I are anomaly for most of the people that are around us. Little things set us off, but we just, our standards are a lot different. A lot of our listeners, their standards are different because they're expecting more. How do I become better? And that's what I love about our listeners and our followers. They're always like, I wanna be better.

This is what we're doing. How do I get over this? So, for the people that surround our listeners and our followers, this is going to help you get through this badge of honor, if you may, about complaining. So have you, do you have

Brent Wright (10:36)
you

Yeah, so I wrote

down the subject. People that wear excuses like they are a badge of honor. That's our subject.

Blair Armstrong (10:53)
Yeah,

yeah. And it's just so, I don't.

I'm in an industry that we have to be, everybody's in the same industry, kissing hands or kissing babies, shaking hands, shaking hands, kissing babies. And you want to be top of mind awareness. So you build this following, you build, you know, your reputation, it's a go-to guides, a resource center, da da da da. And you get people that, yeah, I'm going to do that too. That's what I want to do. And then they get that and everyone's calling them at all hours a day. And they're like, Oh my God.

I'm just so busy. you not want to be as busy? I don't get that. Do you get to you? Are you around people like that?

Brent Wright (11:35)
Yeah, I really struggle with this one because I've proven it to myself over and over that my excuses are just BS. Try doing 75 hard. You did the live hard program. Everybody says, I don't know when I would find time for that. You have to make time. You have to schedule it. You have to figure it out.

I try not to, but seemingly always end up surrounded by people that don't live by a schedule or by a calendar. They think it's odd that I do. They think it's odd that our family does that we live by a calendar or schedule. If it's not on the calendar, it doesn't happen. And they find that stressful. They find that unrewarding.

an opportunity for failure. I've heard all the things. very interesting because those people are the people that typically...

struggle with a lot of things in their life. They struggle with consistency. They struggle with the, I'm gonna get around to it. Remember those little wooden nickel looking things that said round to it on it? Every time I say that, it reminds me of those things back in the day. I'm gonna get around to it. Here you go, here's another round to it. You know, that's an old guy still rock thing, right? So, I'll get around to it.

Blair Armstrong (12:41)
Mm-hmm.

Yeah, I'll get around to it.

Brent Wright (12:56)
You know, I, man, this is a, this is a very debilitating subject for me because I just find myself not wanting to deal with it, not wanting to tolerate it. And I know that that pushes my emotional intelligence to the extreme. The other thing that is really a struggle for me is dealing with

certain age groups that feel like everything needs to be validated. Every action needs to be validated. Man, you did such a good job at that. No, no, it's your base job description. If you're doing your base job description,

You don't get pats on the back. You shouldn't get kudos for doing your base job description. No different than tipping. Tipping is designed. I don't know if you guys understand how tipping works. It isn't a reward just for showing up at the table and saying, what do you need? Well, I came to a restaurant. What do you think I need? Food, water.

Drink. That's bare minimum. And if you bring me food, water and drink, you did your bare minimum job. If you bring me food, water and drink in an exceptional timeframe and you're kind and you smile and my glass is never empty and you're picking up my dishes as soon as I'm done with it, now we have something to talk about. Now we have a tippable situation.

Blair Armstrong (14:35)
Yeah. You I, and I, I, you said something that I really, it's becoming like, showed up so you should pay me. You know, you, we've seen a lot of these viral videos too. And it's like these guys who come and deliver food for Grubhub or whatever. And they have meltdowns because on the app, doesn't show that they're ever going to tip out. And so they're, but

It shouldn't be an expectation.

But if you go ahead and go above beyond, just had it. Chrissy and I went out and had a little date night the other night, last week. And, and we went out and our waiter was like freaking sarcastic, funny, man. And it was just like right up her alley. And, he said something. She said, she said like, God, you were, he took so long to get here. It was like Johnny on the spot. Can I, you know, had waters and brought us bread and all that stuff, just all the spot. She's like, God, I wish you would.

Brent Wright (15:23)
Mm-hmm.

Blair Armstrong (15:27)
should come a little bit faster. He goes, I'll get the manager. And I'm like, okay, this guy's money, right? So I just, like, so we were playing off each other and we had a cocktail and he brought it out and did some different things. It was really knowledgeable about she likes oysters. It was really knowledgeable about the oysters that came out. Sharing this story for you. First of all, above and beyond knew exactly where they're coming to it, how they're going to be presented. So he basically painted a picture, a story, right?

Brent Wright (15:30)
Yeah, yeah.

Blair Armstrong (15:56)
Um, we always say, I'll always say, uh, stories. So backs tell, right? You'll be an eye thing. Um, but anyway, he was just Johnny on the spot. It's just so funny. And he comes over like drops off our, uh, another drink for us. he goes, right. Fake sweat, right. He had a towel in his hand, Pat. And I was like, you got tired coming over here all the time. I hope you don't go back to my manager, you know,

But you know, that was just like, was just, he's having fun, right? And that was like, so great tip. I think we were 30 % on it. It's just because just, was an experience and you do those different things. When you have that experience, you pay for it. wasn't an expectation. Right. Right.

Brent Wright (16:38)
He tapped into your feelings and he made you feel in

a way that was rewarding to you, right?

Blair Armstrong (16:48)
Right.

Right. Yeah. mean, you pay a premium. I just, you know, again, going back to his badge of honor, he could literally hold up like you showed up in my section. What do you want? you should be happy that I, I, I should be, you should be happy that I came to your table or whatever it may be. we had, we just,

Brent Wright (17:00)
I'll bring it on my time and you'll deal with it.

Mm-hmm.

Blair Armstrong (17:10)
took a client yesterday out, looked at a bunch of houses. And to the point that this situation we have.

Brent Wright (17:17)
Do you still drive clients around in your vehicle? Yeah, see the last couple of houses I bought, nobody's even, they're like, hey, I'll meet you over there at three.

Blair Armstrong (17:19)
Yeah, 100%, 100%.

No, I'll ask him like, want to come pick you up now. Some of them like, we'd like to, we want to drive on our own. Like, that's the one thing, but I like to have them in there because we discuss here's what we go to. then after, ⁓ well, after, after the house, we talk about the things we like or don't like. And, and I have, you know,

Brent Wright (17:38)
It's an experience.

You mean not in front of the ring camera? some of those... ⁓

Blair Armstrong (17:48)
Not for the house. There's cameras inside the house now with mics. I'm like,

I don't tell everybody when we go in, no matter how it looks like, save your comments for we go back in the car. Oh, this is cute. I would do this. Yeah, this is nice. Okay. Well, I'm not a big, I mean, if there's views or something like that, it's like, uh, just don't like that. But we don't, we don't rip apart a house if we don't like it in front of everybody. Cause just it's

Brent Wright (17:59)
Shut up.

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Blair Armstrong (18:17)
It's a lot, anyway, the point I was trying to make, so yeah, we take our clients around, we went and saw this one house and this guy who is a realtor with the one house sat in this person's couch. He's the guy that's selling the house and this is what I train. If you want to become, if you're in the Coachella Valley and you're a real estate agent and you want to become a

No, if you want to be a part of a team and you want some training and you want some things, how to figure out to get better, come join our team. That's, and that is a plug. But what I'm trying to get at is you have people that get listings of properties and then they go in and they know nothing about the house. And that drives me absolutely insane or put a lock box on a house. Now other people will say, well, Blair, can't be in a bunch of different places. Well, then build your business.

to where you can be in that part. One of our claims of fame is no matter what the listing, no matter where it is, we do not put lock boxes on there. our client who's selling the house goes, why not? And I said, because my job is to sell your house. I can't depend on somebody that walks into your house and expect to know all the nuances, the things that are surrounding it, the things that you've done to it, so on and so forth.

So it is a better opportunity for me to be there. Does it take time out of my day? Do I have to adjust my schedule because someone wants to go see a house in two hours? Yes, but that's my job. Do I get a badge of honor? No. When do I get my badge of honor? When the check is in the bank. But, I'm going off a long tangent, but I had this guy, seasoned agent sitting on the couch and talking to us with his sunglasses on inside.

Brent Wright (19:57)
Mmm.

Blair Armstrong (19:57)
And I'm like, thank God I know the property really, really well. Cause I went in as okay, could do, I've sold these, couple of these units. You can do this, this, this, this, and this to it. But you're tell us you have to be there and, and want to tell us about the property, but you sit on the couch, like we should be glorified. You know, we should glorify you that you're there. And those are the things that I'm talking about is like, we've just become not everybody.

but there's a lot of people, it seems like the minority is always the loudest or the brightest in the room. And I don't understand why, maybe it just drives us crazy, but when you're coming to a place of business, when you're coming to a place, go above and beyond. I'm bringing you a client, help me sell this client a house. Tell them about the cool things. This is what we can do. This is that instead of just sitting back there, you had the bathrooms in the back.

the rooms over here.

Brent Wright (20:52)
Bare minimum, bare minimum.

Blair Armstrong (20:55)
I'm like, why are you here? I could have done this. I could have done this dude. Well, I had to be here because there's expensive stuff in here. like, whatever. I'm not complaining at all. I'm just saying as it's like, I think a lot of us go through this. It's like, we have desensitized experiences anymore and it's just okay. And what you said about tipping, we just tip just because we don't want to be the a hole that doesn't tip.

Brent Wright (20:57)
I showed up!

What?

Blair Armstrong (21:21)
But how do you, and maybe that person's having a bad day, but there's also a way that you as a person can engage that. Yeah.

Brent Wright (21:27)
So when I notice somebody's having a bad day,

that's when I'll try to uplift them and I will tip them. You don't know what they're going through. That's a different story, right? But just to show up, barely show up, barely do anything, barely bring your food, have other people bring your food. So you've been to fine restaurants before, really nice stuff. We went to one last time I was in LA, really great steakhouse.

Blair Armstrong (21:37)
Right. Yeah. Yeah.

Brent Wright (21:56)
It's very well known and other people would bring the food out and our waiter would then show up and he would present it, have them present and he's like, is this what you ordered? Yes. Does this look acceptable to you? Yes. Do you want to check the steak before I leave the table? Sure. That'd be great. What do you think of the presentation?

I think that's amazing. I think you guys did a great job. Perfect. We will all go back and we'll let the chef and his staff know that you find our food and our presentation acceptable. Can we do that for you? Right? That is exceptional service. He could have just had somebody bring our steak, drop it on the plate, bring it out and walk away and never ask a question. That's, that is...

is a struggle for me. And then, then here's our subject where it comes in.

Well, I did my job.

Tap me on the back.

I showed up.

me on the back.

I've had a hard day. Pat me on the back.

I did what you asked me to do, pat me on the back.

I don't good game anybody just cause you show up back to your sports analogy. You know, it's a, it is a, it's a debilitating thing to be around people like that for me. I had a, um, an acquaintance that I used to, um, spend time with every once in a while. Uh, we were put together in certain situations, certain circumstances, and all he would do is try to one up you on how

crappy his life was and how crappy his day was and how many people wronged

So if you said, man, I'm just struggling the other day, had a hard day, couldn't make this customer happy, tried this, tried this, what do you think? What would you have done in that situation?

Blair Armstrong (23:49)
Good talking to you.

Brent Wright (23:50)
No, well, I had a customer the other day that just did this and this and this, and then it was worse than yours. He just tries to one-up you on everything. There was no conversation. Like if I called you and I said, hey, I'm really struggling with this client. And you're like, well, have you tried this? Have you tried this? Maybe try this. Well, I don't know. Maybe ask them this. You're trying to be helpful, solve the problem, give me kudos, give me...

Blair Armstrong (23:53)
Ugh.

Brent Wright (24:18)
not kudos, but give me different ideas to try to eliminate or alleviate the issue or the problem that we're having, right? Not this guy. This guy's like, well, my customer was twice as bad as yours. And he wore pain and suffering as a badge of honor. There are people that you know that every time something bad happens in the news, they jump on that bandwagon and they get behind that group of people that are being wrong.

There are a number of people that you probably know or have experienced that anytime somebody dies or gets sick, get on that bandwagon and they wear that as a badge of honor or an excuse for why they're not executing at a high level. Well, I'm just struggling because Johnny over here, we found out he had cancer and I'm just trying my best to support his family.

Blair Armstrong (25:03)
Mm-hmm.

Brent Wright (25:12)
So how are you doing that? How? Let's look at the how. So are you just commenting on all their Facebook and Instagram posts? Or are you actually showing up at Johnny's house and cooking them meals? Right? Are you mowing their lawn? Are you washing their car? Are you schlepping their family over around to medical appointments? Did you pay for something that Johnny's family needed?

Blair Armstrong (25:13)
Yeah. Yeah.

Brent Wright (25:40)
that I would be happy to engage with you.

But just every time a new thing comes up, it's more.

It's like they feed on the chaos, other people's chaos. They feed on stress. They don't have enough in their life. So they have to feed on other stuff. And I'm just, I just really struggle with that. Like we talked about this last time. I get to wake up in America and I get to walk out onto a street where there's no AK-47 fire every

Blair Armstrong (26:02)
Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

Yeah, you know, God, dude, that's just so good. So a couple of episodes, I believe it's episode number 109, maybe 108. It's called Build Your Kingdom. And this is really going to go back to it. And everything kind of leads up to, and last week we talked about, know, do you trust me and all these things and I get to and all. So

these last really four episodes kind of coincide with each other and really spill in today. But she said something to it is you chase this chaos. Some people now again, and then so some people do this. If you have a friend or if you have family member to do this and it drives you crazy, which maybe you were a part of it too and you caught yourself and so ever, but whatever it is, we do have these people that

chase a headline and throw a grenade to see what happens and act like they're their martyr out of all this whole situation. But in the meantime, they're stuck behind a gates of a country club or live in a 4,000 square foot house and really not doing anything about it. But that's their badge of honor. I told Facebook and I'm so disgusted with the administration.

Brent Wright (27:21)
You

Blair Armstrong (27:22)
You know, like,

you know, and I will, I'll be honest with you. There was, there was a point in time or a couple of weeks, I've gotten better with it. It still irritates me a little bit, but I, I put myself in it and I'm like, there's no point of it at the end of the day is it's, it's stupid just to wrap yourself or get mad about this person doesn't know this, this, this, this, and this, and this, and whatever things that you're getting wrapped up in.

But to wear that, like you are, that you are getting beat up.

segregated, mistreated, and you go lay your head on a pillow of 15,000 thread count and you wake up in the morning just to go chase it, dude, you are not doing anything that gives you a badge or chick. Whatever is doing this. If you are not helping the solution, if you're not starting a nonprofit, if you're not, if you're not,

in the mix of it trying to raise money to help whatever situation that you're really distraught about.

you get no badge. There is no second place trophy. is, maybe that's what happened, dude. Maybe all these fifth place trophies all the time is a participation of trophies. Like I told all those people off on, I told all those bots on Facebook and Instagram what I really think. I win. And it's still a problem. So are we solving a problem on this podcast? I think so. I, from the comments.

Brent Wright (28:30)
They're participation trophy kids, right?

I hope.

Blair Armstrong (28:53)
The comments that we have, do we have a million followers that we're paid for? No, but we have people that we know that we're making a difference per episode. And if it's just one person, that's a difference, right?

Brent Wright (29:08)
Well, that's 111 people that we've helped. If it's just one per episode, it's 111 people. That makes me feel like we're actually making an active difference. And I'm happy with that result. Would it be cool if we had 30,000 followers and people engaging? Be super sweet. I wouldn't turn it down in any way, or form. Speaking of which, do we have any comments or questions from last time?

Blair Armstrong (29:10)
Right? Right? Right?

Yeah.

Yeah.

I don't have my phone with me, but yeah, Andy, we're going to get you next time. Andy, she's always great about commenting on there. So I'll get that out next time. She's on YouTube. She had one a couple of weeks ago. She was at work and dissecting our show. She's just awesome. Just different comments for her. So but but yeah, you know, those are the guys.

Brent Wright (29:45)
she on YouTube or where she at?

Blair Armstrong (30:01)
We know that we got on our shorts, we get really good views through YouTube. We probably have anywhere. I think the most we've had were 15,000 views on shorts within, not 15,000, excuse me, 1500. I apologize for that. But typically, so we know that we're touching people in a different way to give them a different mindsets and I'll get people randomly. I just had someone lady come up to me where we're having lunch at the club yesterday. It's like doing a really good job. Keep it up. Doesn't subscribe.

But she watches our show. So I'm good with that. Right. You know, like, and she was, she was seasoned in life. She was a little bit older. She goes, don't stop what you're doing. You're really doing those stuff. So our job, realistically, my job, and I feel my wheelhouse, what God gave me in my badge of honor, which I don't like to celebrate, very much about it.

my badge of honor is to share resources, to be a resource for somebody, to bring people together to kind of be the mayor. But I'm not up there jumping up and down talking about, my God, I know we just gave numbers here. So I don't want to feel like this is a contradiction. I'm just talking as we're making a concerted effort to share information that is beneficial to a community.

And we love it. Then we get views because I look at it as it's not a badge of honor. It is like we made an impact today. My impact with the with Palm Springs animal shelter. probably do a clip once or twice every other week. It's making an impact for someone to make to go ahead and adopt a pet or becoming a tough like there. So.

Am I going to get anything from Palm Springs animal shelter? No. Do I care? No, but I know somewhere along the line that a pet is going to get adopted or someone is going to become a part of it. And that's awesome. It's something good that helps the community. And I know, so those are the things, I guess, is this expectation. That's my job is to be a con God put you Brent and I, and all of our listeners and all of our followers out there.

Brent Wright (31:58)
Yeah.

Yep.

Blair Armstrong (32:12)
to do one job and that is to make a difference as what you will say at the end of the show is to make a difference every single day. That is our standard. Sometimes you give a little bit more. Sometimes you give it a little less. does. It's not going to make you better than another person and it's not going to make you less than another person. Where your badge, if there's a celebration to be had, celebrate it for what's your family for a little bit, but it doesn't have to say like I did this is exactly what you're here for.

Brent Wright (32:17)
Yeah.

Mm-hmm.

Blair Armstrong (32:42)
Of course you did this. So.

Brent Wright (32:43)
Mm-hmm.

Yeah, so back to our communication discussion a few weeks ago with all the ways to communicate the electronic communication. It seems that people get super frustrated with me because I'm very dry. If somebody says, Hey, I emailed you that form.

Cool. Thank you.

That's it. Thank you. Like there's no like great job. Ton, like a whole paragraph on feedback on the job that I did and sending you that. Like I get called out a ton by different.

demographics for not expanding and being more personable is what it's labeled as, because I don't thank them kindly and profusely for every simple action that is created in our interaction.

What say you?

Blair Armstrong (33:39)
I think, yeah, you know, we go back to, I will actually go back and watch the episode, but it just goes back to that.

just because someone is not who you are.

doesn't mean, I don't really how to say that very much. It's not a bad, yeah, I mean like, okay, this is the way that they communicate. We talked about that, that the differences on there, there is a, here's your form, doing some stuff for different things. There's expectations in there. I don't want to get away from the badge of honor thing, but it's really, is to a standard of.

Brent Wright (33:53)
That doesn't mean they're a bad person or they have ill intent or...

Well, they're

expecting a badge of honor because they just responded to a piece of communication.

Blair Armstrong (34:17)
okay, yeah, and that

makes sense. Yeah, like, hey, I responded that. Awesome. You know, yeah. mean. Let's go.

Brent Wright (34:22)
Good, good for you. Good for me, good for all of us. I don't need to be,

thank you, you're so great at what you do. I really appreciate all that you've done. I mean, that's needed sometimes, but I think it's overdone. It's like the people that say, love you, when you get off the phone with them. That drives me insane. I just can't stand that. It's a...

Blair Armstrong (34:42)
huh.

Brent Wright (34:49)
I just feel like it's a habit formed response and it's not genuine.

Blair Armstrong (34:53)
Yeah.

There's yes and no. think there's a mindset to this. know, Chrissy will say that to me. And it is, we don't know what's going to be next. So if those are our last words, those are our last words.

Brent Wright (35:11)
So take the time to say, I love you and I appreciate you.

Blair Armstrong (35:16)
instead of just love you, is that what you're saying? Instead of being abbreviated? Yeah. Yeah, yeah. That makes sense. I'm down with that. I'm down with that. So my comment was more of a clarification, like, you know, I hear you. yeah, yeah. yeah. Right.

Brent Wright (35:18)
Love you, click. It's habit, it's habit. It's hitting the easy button. We talked about the easy button two or three times on this podcast.

If somebody says.

Yeah, yeah. If somebody says, I really love you. That I can,

if they say love you and get off the phone, don't even waste your time. Yeah. It's a habit. It's like everybody saying hot minute lately. I just wanna like, I just wanna stab myself in the hand every time I hear that.

Blair Armstrong (35:43)
Yeah. Yeah, love you, bye. Love you, bye. Okay, I did.

What

did you just say?

Brent Wright (35:58)
Everybody says it hasn't happened in a minute or it hasn't happened in a hot minute or something like I just want to like take my pen and like.

Blair Armstrong (36:05)
The temperature is hot in the society right now. I get it, man. It's, you know.

Brent Wright (36:11)
Like you're just

following along like the lemmings walking off the cliff. Yeah.

Blair Armstrong (36:16)
Everybody wants to be seen. Everybody

wants to be seen. Everybody has to like, I did this, this and that. think, you know, what I've heard really a lot lately, dude, is you and I have always been in this spot is that circles are getting smaller. It's not so it's not so much about quantity. It's about quality with friendships, with conversations.

Brent Wright (36:40)
Amen.

Blair Armstrong (36:42)
And it's just, dude, I don't know if it's because I'm getting older, but I seem to have a lot of those conversations last night, you know, these people that I massively respect and, and, and admire just for their accomplishments. There's like, just getting to a point that I'm just gonna, I'm going to be with people that we can have in depth conversations and it doesn't have to be a facade. And, and I go, I do have friends.

Brent Wright (37:07)
Mm-hmm.

Blair Armstrong (37:10)
I have a lot of these people say I do have friends. It's just like it's the same thing that we talked about. So again,

not to stem away from the badge of honor to it, it is to be like, if I talk to you, when I talk to you, like once in a while you reach out to me and once in a while I'll reach out to you. Hey brother, I fricking love you, man. You know, thank you for being in my life type of thing. You know, those types of, we could text each other. You might, you might call me and say that, whatever. I know my Cumber and I have that type of relationship.

Brent Wright (37:32)
Yeah. Yep.

Blair Armstrong (37:43)
You know, there's, there's a couple of guys that I have that you just reach out once in a while. Like, dude, I just been thinking about you and, I hope all is good. I love you, buddy. If you need me, let me know. And that's out. Right. You just, when you get that calling, that's a badge of honor. You should celebrate when you get that calling inside of you and you know it, everyone knows that feeling. And that's a badge of honor that, that you should celebrate.

We talked about this too, it's about you. It's not about what other people see. Your badge of honor, and maybe this is coming into full circle of stuff and why we talk shit out here, is that.

Your badge of honor doesn't need to be worn on the lapel of your shirt, but it needs to be, or on your sleeve. needs to be worn in your heart. What is your badge of honor? How is your badge of honor glorifying your heart and your soul? And it's inside of you and growing you. And why are you asking for a return when we've always been taught give with no exception of return?

Brent Wright (38:26)
You're on your sleeve,

Blair Armstrong (38:48)
Is it have you guys and this is a question. This is not a question to you. This is a question to our audience and our followers. Have we gotten to a point?

that everything that we see that's like, I did this, or I have this part and I did this and this, and you're trying to keep up with them, when you know that those guys that are glorifying their badge of honor are so incredibly empty, they're just trying to fill that void that's inside their soul.

Brent Wright (39:15)
Well, they're looking for something to feed their ego is the bottom line. It's like the last word people.

Blair Armstrong (39:20)
Right.

Yeah.

Brent Wright (39:29)
say have a great day. They're like, yep, bye. You're like, take care of yourself. Yep, you too.

All right. Tell your wife I said hi. Will do.

Blair Armstrong (39:39)
You ⁓

Brent Wright (39:40)
Okay, so like

how long does it take to get off of a conversation?

Blair Armstrong (39:44)
man.

Brent Wright (39:46)
Just take the compliment and leave the building.

Blair Armstrong (39:48)
You

There's

gotta be a Seinfeld episode in there, right?

Brent Wright (39:54)
I feel

like it. So like I'm on a lot of teams meetings, a lot of Zoom meetings and everybody stays. They want to be the last person off. Like it's a badge of honor. Like they said all the things to everybody and they said goodbye and they waved and they were heartfelt in their exit.

Blair Armstrong (39:58)
Yeah.

Brent Wright (40:13)
What?

Blair Armstrong (40:14)
Yeah.

Brent Wright (40:16)
If the meeting's

supposed to be over at 12.30 and we all said our goodbyes one time and I click out and then I get a message, hey, are something wrong with you? Are you upset? You clicked out of that meeting real fast. It was over.

Do we need to celebrate that the meeting's over? Do we all get a participation trophy later? Do we get a star on the board? Are we in third grade? I'm, this is what I'm talking about. This is what we were talking about before.

Blair Armstrong (40:39)
I'll do that.

Yeah.

Yeah. When you're, yeah. You guys, and this may come off of, know, Brent and I will go on these chants, you know, it's your first time here, but rants and rants on a chance, but go on rants. And it's not that we're bitching. It's just like, we know that so much of this, we're becoming more, society is becoming more more suffocated.

Brent Wright (40:56)
Rance.

Blair Armstrong (41:10)
And I know that all of you guys that watch us know this and stuff like this. So we voice it out there. We're, we're the ones that are saying what you're saying behind closed doors. And we say the stuff that we say because we know that you relate to it and we can joke about it. We could talk it out and figure it out. So doing some different things, but

What?

Understand and maybe you guys do understand this knowing that just because someone has a way of life, it's not in any way form supposed to direct your way of life. Your life is your life. Your personality is your personality. And if you don't understand someone's personality and it irritates you, your job is to figure out who they are.

get to know them. If you don't want to invest in that time, which we talked about a while back, you don't want to invest in that person to know about it, but don't bitch about it. I mean, getting just because you're the over the, maybe you're the over the top person. Maybe you're the over giver person. If you are that person understand that, but do not have expectations that you're going to get that in return because that person, as Brent said is it's not in their DNA, which is okay.

and they will reciprocate in different forms that works for them.

Brent Wright (42:31)
So, watching a Gary V episode the other day, and he said, society is going to get so broken and so disconnected.

that people will chase human interaction so much that there will be people that you can hire to walk with you and talk with

and it's already happening in other places in the world. They need validation so much from other people that they hire people to walk with them and talk with them and say nice things to them.

Blair Armstrong (42:54)
Yeah.

Yeah.

Brent Wright (43:06)
And that's what I'm talking about, about badge of honor, participation trophies and things like that. I don't want to come off as just this condescending person who's just irritated with the world and irritated with people. I am struggling with the amount of validation that we are needing as a society to feel whole as a human being. And we're not counting our blessings on a daily basis.

Blair Armstrong (43:31)
Yeah. Yeah. I think that's so good. And it goes back to what we talked to about here on this episode too, is, you know, that that's what we always see in front of our faces, constant validation subliminally that is shoved in our face every single day. And people feel like they should get the same thing because they're doing more than what that's what you shoved in their face through social media, through reality TV, through movies, whatever it is. Right. I want to be the Superman and I'm going to do this, this and this. And why, why am I not getting a ticker, tat parade?

I did this, this, this, and this, this, like, look at me, look at me, look at me, look at me. Trust me, guys, we see you, we feel you, we know what you're doing, but take that energy that you're fighting for, the validation being either being a keyboard warrior or posting some BS on whatever or, or, or.

Brent Wright (44:21)
Yeah.

Put it towards something real and tangible.

Blair Armstrong (44:25)
Yeah. Listen, when we say this and Brett and I made this full four, I don't care where you live in this world. If you want to, if you are making an impact and you want to go ahead and share your badge of honor, come on our show. Let's talk about it. Let's talk about what you're doing. it a nonprofit? Is it a business? Is it something that you, you know, you, you have a, whatever it may be a cancer walk or something like that, whatever.

And like, Hey, you know, I'm super passionate about this. I want, know, I want to kind of build this. Let's get on here and let's talk about it and share it because that's going to make an impact. and, and that'll be your badge of honor that, that you don't have to.

I understand when you go out here and say this, it's not so much promoting, it's you're making an impact. You're taking your energy and impacting society by putting these things together. We want to support that type of a person, that type of business, that type of organization that's making an impact instead of, I'm so busy.

Brent Wright (45:27)
Yeah.

Blair Armstrong (45:29)
And, well, yeah, I, came to work today and I'm the top salesman. Well, cool. Cause that's your job is to be a salesman. Right. Well, awesome.

Brent Wright (45:38)
Exactly. That's what your job description is. Go do

your job description. If you sell, if your base is to sell five a week and you sell 10, we're gonna celebrate you. But if you sell five, no celebration.

Blair Armstrong (45:55)
We're gonna celebrate you.

It's your expectation.

Brent Wright (46:03)
To the point that literally when you type congratulations on most pieces of communication apps, even Google and Outlook do it, it goes, pooh, and shoots up the little things now, right? Everybody gets celebrated when they just type congratulations.

Blair Armstrong (46:15)
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

So wrapping this up, dude, we are approaching our Joe Rogan hour. Trying to keep up with Andy Fercella. anyway, any final words from you? I think that we kind of, I know that we kind of beat this up a little bit, but guys, it's not that, again, I want to say that we're not complaining on here, but let's all come together and raise our standards. We're holding ourselves accountable when we talk about this stuff.

Brent Wright (46:30)
Yeah.

Blair Armstrong (46:47)
Yeah, we're going to hold you accountable. you don't like us holding you accountable, then sorry.

Just maybe not whatever. I'm not going to call. I'm not going to say that. I don't want to call you out, but if you, if you're struggling, trying to, to be better and you're expecting people to recognize you for it, get over yourself and then you find out that you're actually going to be recognized more. What you do sit there and promote yourself.

Brent Wright (46:54)
Hehehehehe

Yeah. 100%.

Blair Armstrong (47:13)
I know that works for me a lot.

So final words.

Brent Wright (47:17)
really truly dissect what we're trying to say. Just don't feel like we're on here whining and complaining about people and the people we interact with. These subjects come from our heartfelt interactions, our heartfelt discussions, and a thing that would possibly make

our lives better, our meaning inclusively in those people that we're interacting with. And we're just trying to change the world and make it a better place. And so with that, as always, go make a damn difference for you and your family and your community. And let us know how we can help you with.

we are here to serve.

Blair Armstrong (48:02)
Yeah. All right, guys. Yeah. Good, good episode today. I'm just really grateful for all of you. Keep following us. Keep leaving us comments. Keep making a damn difference, as Brent says. And hang that badge of honor inside your body. Let it fill your soul. Let it fill your heart. I promise you it will make you better. It may be hard at first.

But just keep putting it on there every day, every day, every day, every day. And just one more day, I'm going to put my badge of honor on my heart today. OK, good. And then the next day, the same thing, starting at zero every day. But we love you guys. We thank you so much for supporting. I don't know how the hell we got to episode 111, but we did. And grateful we get to do this every freaking week. So stay safe. Stay safe.

Let me try this again. Stay safe, but most of all, God bless. We'll see you guys next week. Have a great, great week. You'll make a damn difference, as Brent says. Take care.